I’m coming to you today with part II of the Series on What Lies Beneath. I think this is important for you to read and understand so that you can harness the full Power of your Femininity without inadvertently self sabotaging your efforts with self defeating thoughts, beliefs and hang-ups. It is imperative Dolls that you get a hold of your thoughts and beliefs and make sure you are thinking and feeling positive about life so that your Femininity can shine through from the inside (where it is genuine) so that you can use it to your advantage.
Now Dolls, I’m sure many of you are saying, “Well, what does my thoughts have to do with anything? If I look and act feminine then that should be all I need!”. Well, Doll’s that thinking is the difference between immediate results that wane after a short period and a woman who understands the principles I am saying to you and can not only harness results, but do so effortlessly, gracefully, for a sustained period and hold and maintain the fruits that her power brings to her.
Ever see a woman who seems to effortlessly exude class, sophistication, femininity and grace? It’s not just her clothes because I’m sure you have seen her dressed down in flats but she still looks as amazing as when she was dressed up in a skirt (or dress), heels, the perfect purse, and perfect hair do. The key is her energy is the same no matter what she is wearing. The proof is the fact that men and women are are still drawn. She still gets double takes, smiles, and men going out of their way to bend over backwards for her. She still has that ‘it” factor. Well, the reason is simple. Her energy is positive and in a world where everyone is stressed, mad, sad, or generally feeling negative about something she is like a light that parts the grey clouds away. And they (men) gravitate towards her like a moth to a flame. She could wear a paper sack with her hair looking like she just fought a pack of rapid wolves and barely made it out alive. She will still be considered beautiful just the same (and the men will form a lynch mob to ill the wolves who dared to try and harm their precious flower- we, you and me, want you to be that precious flower that they are fighting for!)
These past few days we have had a serious cloudy and rainy spell. Its like my city is covered with one huge cloud bent on super soaking everyone and everything (though my car being power washed for free is a great thing) above ground. This past Wednesday we had a beautiful bright, clear, sunny and WARM day and let me tell you, the sour faces I seen on the street the day before were no-where in sight. Everyone was out, smiling and enjoying the beautiful day. That is who that girl is when she projects that positive energy – she is a bright sunny day that wakes up and attracts men from their familiar grey and cloudy day. And that’s what you want to do as well. True positivity from the inside out is a vehicle that your Femininity rides on out (this blog will help you with that) which in turn becomes your power.
Do you understand now why this is so important?
If not then let me put it this way. If you merely search the web and read all these amazing blogs on femininity and dress yourself up and be your most feminine self, but inside your sad, upset, and continuously engaging in negative thoughts, the energy you will put forth will sabotage your femininity which in the short term will yield you inconsistent results but in the long term will yield you the opposite of what you are trying to achieve.
Sorry, shocking but very true!
So if you are ready, then let’s begin with a few questions
Does this conversation sound familiar?
“I wish Shane would call me. God I miss him and I wish we could be together again. I know this time I can make it work with him. I will be sexier, match my panties with my bra. I’ll even throw out all my cotton panties for those thongs and g-strings. He won’t be able to resist me. I’m going to be extra feminine and pretty. I’ll grow my hair out because he used to love me with long hair. I’ll even get hair extensions or one of those lacefront thingy’s because I read that men love long hair. He really used to love mine. I’m going to wear my fitted clothes, hit the gym and wear brighter colours because he hated my drab grey and black wardrobe. By the time I’m done wowing him with my cute Feminine self he will have no choice but to give us a chance. He will love the new me! I can’t wait!”
Then you go down to the local gym, purchase an expensive membership and start planning how you will re-arrange your finances such as eating to purchase a new wardrobe. HOLD UP - stop right there.
If that conversation doesn’t sound familiar how about this one
“God there goes Emily again. Look at how Josh and Leon are practically leaning out of their chair gawking at her. Men! God, every time she comes over here they gawk, or run over to talk to her and get her whatever she wants. What’s so special about her anyway? I mean, we’re both tall, and slim. I wear makeup too so why are they so on her every time she walks over? I can’t stand her; she’s such an attention whore. That’s why she comes over here so they can gawk at her. Insecure bitch. I bet she is sleeping with one of them or she hoes around. Yea she probably hoes it up big time. That’s probably why they all fall all over her. Hmpf! I feel better now!” STOP Right there! Turn around and get back over here and continue reading.
If that conversation doesn’t sound familiar maybe this one does?
“I wish I was prettier, thinner, and bubbly like Karen. Look at how she always smiles. How can she smile all the time like that no matter what! I wish I could smile all the time but unlike Karen my life isn’t handed to me on a silver platter. She’s always so happy it’s disgusting! God, how can you be so happy all the time?? God, I wish I could smile like nothing is wrong and I have the perfect life. This job barely pays the bills, my phone bill is due soon and I don’t have the money to pay it. God I hope they don’t cut my phone off. I feel so alone all the time. I wish I had someone that loved me and took me out to places. She and Jared look so happy. I wish I had someone to come by my work and take me to lunch or send me flowers for my birthday. She must be a god faker! That’s the only way she can be so damn happy all the time. “
If any of these conversations sound familiar (even vaguely so) then my next post is especially important for you to read
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