How your negative thoughts could be Sabotoging your Femininity Part II

How your Negative Thoughts Are Sabotaging your Femininity Part II


Good evening Dolls. Thanks for your patience, life got a bit hectic but I am back with part II of my Series on What lies Beneath. I feel really passionate about this subject because I know how self destructive this type of behavior can be. Its like having a goal to build something then with every 10 bricks you lay with one hand you simultaneously take away 2 with another.

In my prior post I asked a series of questions and asked If any of those scenarios sounded familiar to you. If you answered yes to any of them please keep reading. If you haven’t then still read on, you might learn something new or if at the very least nod in agreement. So let’s get started.
Scenario 1
“I wish Shane would call me. God I miss him and I wish we could be together again. I know this time I can make it work with him. I will be sexier, match my panties with my bra. I’ll even throw out all my cotton panties for those thongs and g-strings. He won’t be able to resist me. I’m going to be extra feminine and pretty. I’ll grow my hair out because he used to love me with long hair. I’ll even get hair extensions or one of those lace front thingy’s because I read that men love long hair. He really used to love mine. I’m going to wear my fitted clothes, hit the gym and wear brighter colours because he hated my drab grey and black wardrobe. By the time I’m done wowing him with my cute Feminine self he will have no choice but to give us a chance. He will love the new me! I can’t wait!”
Then you go down to the local gym, purchase an expensive membership and start planning how you will re-arrange your finances such as eating to purchase a new wardrobe. HOLD UP - stop right there.

*taps microphone* “Is this thing on???” *tap! Tap!* “Can you hear me? Ok good.”

I’m going to cut to the chase and say this right off the bat. YOU CANT MAKE A MAN WANT YOU! NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, SAY, NO MATTER HOW YOU ACT, BEND YOURSELF INTO A PRETZEL AND MAGICALLY BECOME HIS “IDEAL” WOMAN. IF HE DESNT WANT YOU FOR YOU, HE WONT WANT YOU NO MATTER WHO, OR WHAT YOU TRANSFORM YOURSELF TO BE. Skinny, slim, pretty, bright colours, thongs, matching bras and panties and a long weave it won’t matter; he simply wont stay. But there is good news. If you stop and take stalk of why you are a wonderful, loving, worthy woman of love, affection and all the good things that life has to offer you will attract a man who will want to be with you. But wait; there is even more good news. If you love yourself on top of that, treasure your beauty, your essence, respect yourself and be a HAPPY and CONTENT woman, it will be like a strong magnet that no man can resist. You must love yourself. You must respect yourself. You must establish boundaries regarding how people treat you and what you want out of your relationships. You must be happy and have a positive countenance about yourself. You must be positive and you must be involved in life and everything it has to offer. IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND BE HAPPY WITH WHO YOU ARE, NO MAN WORTHY OF YOU WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU NOR WILL HE WANT TO BE WITH YOU!! Its harsh and for the negative, down on themselves type of woman this is like hearing that your favorite non fat ice cream really had 300 grams of fat per serving more than advertised on the package but it’s a reality and if you want to change and be the person you’ve dreamt of (deep down inside) being then this is what you have to do.

Ok, now that, that’s out of the way let me elaborate. I hope your still with me because there are some hard truths ahead that you need to hear. Yes, harder than what I just said.

1. You must love yourself

When you love yourself you treasure who you are. You accept yourself flaws and all and still think of yourself as fabulous. You recognize that those flaws exist but they don’t define who you are as a person. Combined with your abundance of amazing traits, together they make you who you are as a person and you love them just the same. When you love yourself you don’t constantly remind yourself of what you don’t like about yourself and when you make a mistake, you recognize it for what it is, a mistake and a learning experience and you move on. When you love yourself you keep fit because it makes you happy and you like being healthy. When you love yourself, you buy clothes because they look nice on you and they make you feel good. You buy them not because someone else will think it looks amazing on you (thus trying to please someone else), but because you think it looks great on you and you TRUST your own judgment. Trusting yourself and loving yourself goes hand in hand. You trust your own judgment, you trust your gut (vital!), you believe in yourself and your ability to accomplish whatever you set your mind to, you own your own domain, your brand, what makes you the fabulous person you are. You, as a beautiful, vital woman are your own brand each and every time you walk out the door, and your brand speaks about you every time you interact with other people including your co workers, your boss, dry cleaner, family, boy friend’s and most importantly other men.

“What does she mean by brand??”

Your brand is similar to the brand of a product except you are the product. For example, Pepsi is a brand and the Pepsico Company markets their product as a refreshing beverage. They pepper their commercials with smiling happy people, holding their product, interacting and having fun. Then comes the refreshing gulp and the commercial ends with a smiling and quenched Pepsi drinker. Same applies to you without the millions of dollars in advertising commercials.

You are a brand. But the advertising is not just in what you wear and how you carry yourself (that matters too but we won’t broach that topic very much in this post) but in how you feel, what you think and how you view the world. If you constantly focus on the bad, and negative things happening, if you don’t love yourself enough to want to make yourself happy for you, if you constantly try to re-brand yourself to fit someone else’s ideal and if you constantly think negatively of who you are as a person then you will send out a negative vibe that say, “I’m not worthy of anything good, so don’t waste your time on me. I’m a negative person who hates life, and I have nothing good to offer myself, you or anyone else. I’m a perfect victim”. Like attracts like and soon you will attract the wrong guys who read and understand those vibes and repel the men who read and understand the vibes emitted by positive women.

You don’t want to be anyone’s victim, which is how you end up attracting men who don’t value you as a person and will use you, play with you, and make you jump through hoops for their own entertainment. You must love yourself.

To love yourself means to take time out for yourself and get to know yourself and what makes you happy. Get involved in positive activities that you enjoy no matter what anyone thinks because these activities are what you enjoy. Spend time with yourself because if you don’t love spending time with yourself how do you expect anyone to want to spend time with you?

“But I don’t want to be alone. I hate it!”

Sadly, contrary to popular belief being alone for a while is the first step to loving yourself. It hurts at first but it gets easier especially if you go out, meet new people, get involved with outside activities. And getting out means that you are projecting your energy outside of yourself and appreciating life, and interacting with other people. In the process you won’t feel lonely; you will discover new things about yourself and trust your ability to make your own decisions about what makes you happy. You will start to feel more positive and that positivity will shift your brand and make yourself more desirable to yourself and others.

2. Respect yourself

When you respect yourself you don’t try to change yourself to be more ideal for someone who doesn’t accept you for who you are. When a man pulls away, harshly criticizes you, and puts you down you don’t seek to change yourself to fit his ideal because you recognize that such a person cannot be pleased and you don’t seek to please anyone but yourself. When you respect yourself you value yourself above someone else’s harsh criticisms and even though it hurts you, you won’t want to stay with someone who doesn’t accept you the way you are. If a man chooses to leave you let him go knowing its him and not you. You don’t buy a new wardrobe to make him stay, or over extend yourself on a gym membership to be thin and ideal. You do those things for yourself not for anyone else.

3. You establish boundaries

When you love yourself you establish boundaries or rules of engagement on how people treat you. loving and respecting yourself means you don’t allow people to walk all over you and take advantage of you but you don’t “put them in their place” rudely, with attitude and a “machete to kill a fly” approach. Why? Because you love and respect yourself enough to not do anything that will bring down your brand. Your brand is marketable. Your brand communicates that you are worthy of good and positive things because you are emitting good and positive energy which attracts positive people who want to bless you with positive opportunities.
It’s a vicious cycle I know but one that benefits you greatly!!!!

Do you see what I am getting at dolls?

Stay Tuned for my next entry June 16th

Your thoughts??

How your negative thoughts could be Sabotoging your Femininity

Hello Dolls!!

I’m coming to you today with part II of the Series on What Lies Beneath. I think this is important for you to read and understand so that you can harness the full Power of your Femininity without inadvertently self sabotaging your efforts with self defeating thoughts, beliefs and hang-ups. It is imperative Dolls that you get a hold of your thoughts and beliefs and make sure you are thinking and feeling positive about life so that your Femininity can shine through from the inside (where it is genuine) so that you can use it to your advantage.

Now Dolls, I’m sure many of you are saying, “Well, what does my thoughts have to do with anything? If I look and act feminine then that should be all I need!”. Well, Doll’s that thinking is the difference between immediate results that wane after a short period and a woman who understands the principles I am saying to you and can not only harness results, but do so effortlessly, gracefully, for a sustained period and hold and maintain the fruits that her power brings to her.

Ever see a woman who seems to effortlessly exude class, sophistication, femininity and grace? It’s not just her clothes because I’m sure you have seen her dressed down in flats but she still looks as amazing as when she was dressed up in a skirt (or dress), heels, the perfect purse, and perfect hair do. The key is her energy is the same no matter what she is wearing. The proof is the fact that men and women are are still drawn. She still gets double takes, smiles, and men going out of their way to bend over backwards for her. She still has that ‘it” factor. Well, the reason is simple. Her energy is positive and in a world where everyone is stressed, mad, sad, or generally feeling negative about something she is like a light that parts the grey clouds away. And they (men) gravitate towards her like a moth to a flame. She could wear a paper sack with her hair looking like she just fought a pack of rapid wolves and barely made it out alive. She will still be considered beautiful just the same (and the men will form a lynch mob to ill the wolves who dared to try and harm their precious flower- we, you and me, want you to be that precious flower that they are fighting for!)

These past few days we have had a serious cloudy and rainy spell. Its like my city is covered with one huge cloud bent on super soaking everyone and everything (though my car being power washed for free is a great thing) above ground. This past Wednesday we had a beautiful bright, clear, sunny and WARM day and let me tell you, the sour faces I seen on the street the day before were no-where in sight. Everyone was out, smiling and enjoying the beautiful day. That is who that girl is when she projects that positive energy – she is a bright sunny day that wakes up and attracts men from their familiar grey and cloudy day. And that’s what you want to do as well. True positivity from the inside out is a vehicle that your Femininity rides on out (this blog will help you with that) which in turn becomes your power.

Do you understand now why this is so important?
If not then let me put it this way. If you merely search the web and read all these amazing blogs on femininity and dress yourself up and be your most feminine self, but inside your sad, upset, and continuously engaging in negative thoughts, the energy you will put forth will sabotage your femininity which in the short term will yield you inconsistent results but in the long term will yield you the opposite of what you are trying to achieve.
Sorry, shocking but very true!

So if you are ready, then let’s begin with a few questions

Does this conversation sound familiar?

“I wish Shane would call me. God I miss him and I wish we could be together again. I know this time I can make it work with him. I will be sexier, match my panties with my bra. I’ll even throw out all my cotton panties for those thongs and g-strings. He won’t be able to resist me. I’m going to be extra feminine and pretty. I’ll grow my hair out because he used to love me with long hair. I’ll even get hair extensions or one of those lacefront thingy’s because I read that men love long hair. He really used to love mine. I’m going to wear my fitted clothes, hit the gym and wear brighter colours because he hated my drab grey and black wardrobe. By the time I’m done wowing him with my cute Feminine self he will have no choice but to give us a chance. He will love the new me! I can’t wait!”
Then you go down to the local gym, purchase an expensive membership and start planning how you will re-arrange your finances such as eating to purchase a new wardrobe. HOLD UP - stop right there.
If that conversation doesn’t sound familiar how about this one

“God there goes Emily again. Look at how Josh and Leon are practically leaning out of their chair gawking at her. Men! God, every time she comes over here they gawk, or run over to talk to her and get her whatever she wants. What’s so special about her anyway? I mean, we’re both tall, and slim. I wear makeup too so why are they so on her every time she walks over? I can’t stand her; she’s such an attention whore. That’s why she comes over here so they can gawk at her. Insecure bitch. I bet she is sleeping with one of them or she hoes around. Yea she probably hoes it up big time. That’s probably why they all fall all over her. Hmpf! I feel better now!” STOP Right there! Turn around and get back over here and continue reading.

If that conversation doesn’t sound familiar maybe this one does?

“I wish I was prettier, thinner, and bubbly like Karen. Look at how she always smiles. How can she smile all the time like that no matter what! I wish I could smile all the time but unlike Karen my life isn’t handed to me on a silver platter. She’s always so happy it’s disgusting! God, how can you be so happy all the time?? God, I wish I could smile like nothing is wrong and I have the perfect life. This job barely pays the bills, my phone bill is due soon and I don’t have the money to pay it. God I hope they don’t cut my phone off. I feel so alone all the time. I wish I had someone that loved me and took me out to places. She and Jared look so happy. I wish I had someone to come by my work and take me to lunch or send me flowers for my birthday. She must be a god faker! That’s the only way she can be so damn happy all the time. “

If any of these conversations sound familiar (even vaguely so) then my next post is especially important for you to read

Your thoughts?

What Lies Inside...?

Hey Dolls!! Hopefuly you have enjoyed my few short posts on dresses, shapewear and the books I've shared on how to be your best self in a relationship (I will revisit this topic more in depth later). I've gone over what lies beneath and how to start with a good wardrobe fundation so you can look and feel your best in any dress or skirt. So now that we have an idea about that lets adress hat lies inside...that is inside your head!

You ever hear the saying that its all in our head? Well, its true!! You have the power to do, be and think whatever you like and watch as your desires come to life!

It goes without sayng that you are what you think. If you think negative things such as, "I'm a failure, I'm ugly, fat, undesireable, unattractice etc" then thats unfortunatley what you will be. You and only you are responsible for your thoughts, what you accept as true and what you believe you deserve! So you ask yourself, well how do I do that?? I dont like my hair, I dont like my skin, I dont like my body, etc, etc, etc. Or all my life I have been told I will be nothing, I am ugly, so and so is prettier then me, or society says my body shape, size, skin tone or hair colour is not beautiful. Again whatever you accept to be true is what you will have and be.

Scenario:

Cassandra was a tall, slender and pretty dark skinned girl. She was smart, level headed and a bit shy and reserved. Ling was short, pretty asian girl who was smart, charasmatic and funny. Though she wasnt exactly slim, she owned her body and wasnt afraid of what she looked like. Talia was a pretty, petite, biracial girl who was smart, charasmatic, fun, outgoing and very confident.
Talia was the leader of the trio. She constantly was the centre of male attention with her bleach blonde hair, blue contacts, push up bra ad heavy make up. But deep down inside she wasnt very secure with herself and constantly talked about how great she was and how well she did in school.
Eventually it began to have an affect on Ling and Cassandra and they began to feel inadequate, and almost invisible when Talia was around. So ling, began wearing tighter fitting clothes, got blonde streaks in her hair and started partying heavily with Talia. Cassandra being the shy reserved one didnt quite feel like she fit in because of her height.
She felt embarassed to wear the 4 inch heels that the other girls wore because it made her feel ackward and like she towered over everyone. And though she tried wearing the heavy make up like the other girls she wasnt quite able to pull it off. She felt down on herself all the time and by the end of the semester became very depressed.

What kind of thoughts do you think were going through Cassandras head?

"I hate being so tall. If I wasnt I could wear those cute high heels like Talia and Ling without towering over everyone"

"I wish my hair was longer or lighter but I dont have the money to get streaks" "I wish I was as smart as Talia! Watch her get a higher score then me on the next test."

All of these negative thoughts made Cassandra feel inadequate and bad about herself and helped propel her deeper into depression.

Does this scenario sound familiar to you?? Do you constantly compare yourself to a friend, sibling, acquaintance or peer and list all the reasons why they are better then you in some way, all while wishing you could have those things for yourself too?

If thats you then I have a powerful tool to help you overcome those thoughts, regain control of your mind and become the person you have always wanted to be.



The Power of the Subconcious Mind

The Power of the Subconcious Mind by Joseph Murphy

I was recommended this book by an aunt and aquaintance. It focuses on how you can think yourself successful, powerful, healthy, rich and even slender. It sounds like it could be a lot of fluff but it is not. First it talks about the common mind traps of negativity that can pervade our minds and keep us trapped in a cycle of negativity, lack and want and how we unwitingly incorporate this into our belief system. Finallyt it introduces us to our subconcious mind, its role in our life and how we already have the tools to transform ourselves into what we want to be.

I dont want to give away too much because this book is a ASSET in your aresenal of femininity and it teaches you how to get a rein on negative thoughts, banish them and focus on positivity.

Case in point

Yea right you say! What does this have to do with feminity?? Wel I'll share a few reasons why

* You will smile more smile is a warm invitation for others to smile back. And believe me Dolls, a smile can net you more then just a, 'How you doin!"

*When you smile, your face muscles relax, you give off a essense of warmth, positivity and contentment and contentment draws people to you. It draws your co workers to view you as a sset to their work environment. Your boss will notice and will begin to view you in a positive light and when your boss views you that way, doors begin to open.

*A woman who is soft and feminine attracts male suitors. Suddenly, men want to be around her a lot more because her contentment attracts them.

*Now this sounds a bit...manipulative but I assure you its not intentional. Contentment in a woman results in her uncontrllable ability to exude femininity will help said woman to influence others. Its not fair, it sucks for those who dont benefit but its a reality. No use in moaning and groaning about it. Might as well get on the side of being benefited then watching it benefit someone else and feeling sour about it.

Like it or not Dolls, it does benefit the holder of such Femininity. So Dolls, go get the book and read it.

I wont give too much details behind this life changing book because I think the author does and amazing job of proving how and why this works. Besides, its not something you want to read once and set aside. Its a tool and an excellent reference once your mind has been awakened that you will want to reference again and again.

If you want to benefit from the wisdom then you have to put in the work. Its as simple as that. Your not going to get that awesome scarf at French Connection if you dont at least get in the car and drive to the mall to go get it. Same applies here.

You must put in the effort to change your situation or you will simply stay put in the situation you are in.

To harness the Power of Femininity is to take a step and walk boldly towards your goals and dreams. Till next time Dolls!

What Lies Beneath??

What lies beneath?
Hello Dolls!!!! Sorry I have been away- its been really busy. Anyhow, as my last post suggested dresses can REALLY up your feminine presence. I adore dresses and what they can do for you.
Dont underestimate the power of a flattering dress, and pretty shoes can do for you and the image they can portray. Personally, I feel much more feminine in a dress and heels then pants. It automatically makes me walk straighter, not walk with such a rush to get to where ever I am going and most importantly it helps me to sit like a lady!!

Tip #1

The lady-like way to get in and out of a car
So, picture this! Your walking to the car and getting ready to make that long (or short) trip to work. Your in a pretty dress or skirt and your nicest most comfortable (lets not forget comfort Dolls-hello!) shoes - You know you look your best. You get to the car, unlock the doors then hope in like a trucker at a pit stop... *screeching halt Stop the movie*
STOP RIGHT THERE!
Nothing says un-sexy like a pretty woman, wearing a pretty dress (or skirt) and pretty shoes swinging her right leg in then left like a trucker at the 7-11 truck stop off the highway 400 North. Dont be that girl!!!
The correct way to get into a car is first resting (notice the word RESTING) your bottom onto the seat, then with one sweeping motion, swing both legs into the car, then reach over with your left hand and close the car door. Easier said then done??? Well, true you have to engage your ab muscles a bit to do it but if you can master this you will have the men noticing and mesmerized at how feminine and dainty you are!!

Real life experience;
Because I never want to give advice without taking it I will share with you my real life experience with this. I tried this for myself one day in the parking lot at work on lunch. There was a group of men huddled around their vehicle having a discussion. I walked over to my car and swung my legs in just as I described above. Right before I pulled the car door shut I looked up and I was shocked to see all 3 men staring and smiling with a pleasent surprised look.
Wondering if it was them, later on that day at the gas station I did it again, and again I looked up and I was met with a smile from one of the men pumping gas. So dolls, it works! Plus it helps you feel super feminine as well. Now onto the title of this post. What lies beneath??
So back to those dresses and skirts. I'm sure many of you dolls looked at some of these dresses and thought, "wow that one is nice but I dont think my figure will look right in it." Or you thought, "my tummy is too big, my butt too large and my thighs too big etc". Well, I say hogwash to that Dolls! Its not so much what the eyes can see on the outside but its what they cant see undeneath that makes all the difference!

Do I have your attention now??

A great outfit starts with a great foundation. The right under garments can pull in, tuck under, and pull together any figure to look more flattering in any outfit or make you look HORRID!
And now there are so many excellent choices for all budgets, sizes and needs. The great part is practically everyone, and I do mean practically everyone is wearing them so you dont have to feel ashamed for wanting a little lift, tuck, pull or minimization in those areas that your not so thrilled about.

This one so far is my favorite.

http://www.vedettestore.com/

They have compression shape wear for every area that you would like to see instant improvement. From minimizing your thighs, to flattening in upper and lower abs, lifting your booty or tucking in any rolls you may feel you have they have it all!!! I purchased their strong compression garment that provides excellent ompression on your lower abs and I must say I love it. Their sizes start from XS to XL. My advice to you is, if your a medium according to their size chart, you might want to order a small. But take that for what it is. But beware, when I tell you it holds you in, it really holds in firmly and gives you that sexy hour glass shape you may be craving for.

If you have that shape but a tiny pooch (raises hand) then get it anyway and be prepared to add some mirror time to your morning prep because you will be drooling at how hot you look (again raises hand).

Another great site is http://www.ardyss.com/

I personally tried their Panty Reshaper lifting panty because my good friend had a "garment party" at her house and I fell in love. It lifts you like you wouldnt believe.
Got those jeans that you feel doesnt give your derrier the spotlight you'd like it to have? Get this panty! My goodness I cant sing the praises of this garmet enough! It has bands that go under your buttocks and lifts it up comfortably. If your hubby or boyfriend grabs your butt its all you, no padding at all!! The shorts are seamless and are not visible under most clothing such as jeans, and shorts. Its awesome!!
The site has information on how to find a distributor in your area. Ok Dolls, thats all for tonight. I will be back with more awesome information on how you can enhance yourself and harness the power of your femininity.

Next topic, the power of the mind because it all starts in your head Dolls! I have an awesome book that I've read twice that came recommended by two very smart women in my life. I am proud to share it with you ladies because I truely believe it will change your life!

Why? Because it's changed mine! Till next time Dolls!

Dresses and their Power of Femininity!

Hello Dolls!!

Lately I have been in love with dresses! I dont think there is anything sexier then a woman in a well fitted beautiful dress (skirts come a close second but you know what I mean *wink*). I mean, its such a statement of femininity!!! This season bold colours and prints are in. What a great time to check out some of the beautiful styles and colours available. Now I know some of you dolls are reading this thinking, "but I'm a tomboy I cant see myself in a dress" but I cant assure you, throwing on a simple dress with heels and you will see the difference it makes in how men approach you, and treat you. Its really a remarkable thing. A dress screams femininity and requests without saying that a man be chivirous and gentleman like.

That brings me to another topic which is the importance of shoes. A good way to ruin a look is by the type of footwear you pair your outfit with. A dress and sneakers never goes together unless you really dont care about how you look and the message you are sending across in which case this blog might not be for you. The right shoes, even the right colour makes a world of difference. It either dresses you up or dresses you down and gives off the impression, depending on the footwear that your sloppy and dont really care about your appearance. I have seen so many gorgeous girls walking around in dirty shoes, mis matched shoes with outfits (for example burkenstocks paired with a pencil skirt), or sneakers with dresses. I understand one wants to be comfortable but that doesnt mean you should sacrifice a well put together appearance for comfort. There are a plethora of shoe choices that are comfortable yet stylish and affordable (my favorite word) so really there is no excuse. And for your tall girls who are afraid of height I can assure you that your height is your advantage. There is nothing more stunning then a beautiful tall woman in a gorgeous dress and killer heels. I went to a womens conference I saw a woman who in her heels was over 6 feet tall. She was STUNNING!!! She wore a fitted black dress that acentuated her shoulders and a pair of killer leopard print heels. I was so impressed that she left me speechless. I couldnt take my eyes off her and it had nothing to do with her height, or drop dead gorgeous looks but it was her confidence and how she owned her look and thus owned the room that captivate every one who set eyes on her. So to my fellow tall girls fear not. You dont have to shy away from a great pair of heels because your over 5'8.6 (*ahem* thats my height by the way*{smiles} ) *wink*

Check out a couple of my favorite pics from various sites and have a peek at this years pretty looks.

Color Block Dresses:

This shade of blue and neutral beige will flatter any skin shade and make any Doll wearing it look super soft and pretty!

Akiko Pleated Color Blocked Cami Dress

175.00 CAD

bloomingdales.com

Neutral coloured shoes are very in this season

Aqua Tube Block Dress

67.00 CAD

bloomingdales.com

{I know the dress isnt an aqua colour but that is the name none the less :)

Notice the kitten heel shoes the model is wearing. They look fabulous with this dress proving you dont need sky high heels to make a statement with every outfit.

Milly "Mara" Color-Blocked Combo Dress

$385.00 CAD

bloomingdales.com

Orange is a beautiful warm hue that looks great on all skin tones but looks especially nice on darker skin because it pops against the contrast. you can pair this with a white kitten or medium heel, or be bold and go with a canary yellow heel. Either way this dress brings you right into spring shining!

Taylor Dresses Jaquard Print Dress

$135.00

nordstrom.com

MAXI DRESSES

This beauty is super flirty and feminine. Long dresses are coming back in and are just as sexy as a short hemline. Why? It pairs a bit of mystery with the flirtaseusness of the frills and length.

H&M (your local store or online)

$29.99 CAD or $19.99 US

This silk beauty is stunning. The colours commands attention and screams confidence and the feel of the silk against your skinis sure to make you feel luxurious while you wear it. Dont shy away from this one. Its gorgeous!

Warehouse Silk Paradise Shape maxi Dress

asos.com

Embelished Maxi Dress

$98

Victoria Secret.com

SMOKED STRAPLESS DRESSES FROM VICTORIA SECRET.COM

$45 each

These are a few suggestions for fun, flirty and feminine dresses. Prints, bright colours and beiges are really in this season. Check it all out and have fun with it!

Stay tuned for my next post

Mental Wellness: Relationships

Good afternoon Dolls!

In my wellness series of posts I want to focus on resources and tips that you can read and incorporate into your daily life to help enhance the Power of your Femininity. Being feminine is more then just how you dress or act in public. Its also about empowering your mind and utilizing strategic intelligence so that you dont make critical mistakes in your relationships that undoes the hard work you've cultivated to create a feminine and soft image. I want to make sure your mind is empowered along with your femininity to help you achieve the relationship, goals and dreams that you've always wanted.

So lets get started with 3 of my favorite resources that I feel are good starters for the woman whose beginning her journey to empowerment.

I'd like to share with you some resources that I have come across that adds value to your mental wellness when it comes to relationships. Whether you are in a relationship, recently single, or you've been single for a while these books will add tips, "tricks" and valuable information to help you navigate the sometimes mirky waters of dating.

Resource #1: Why Men Marry Bitches" and "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov

I read this book 3 years ago and it changed my perspective on dating and answered my fundamental question of why I was the girl who seemed like a great catch but had the catch bolt after a while. I discovered that I was making critical mistakes because I approached dating from the "good girl mentality". Men dont think like that and this book gives you a sneak peak into their minds, how they think what the really mean when they say they want a nice girl and why thats the last thing they want or desire.

Resource # 2: All teh Good Ones Arent Taken: Change the Way you Date and FInd Lasting Love by Debbie Magids Ph.D., and Nancy Peske

This book helps you to identify which "single" you are and give you tips on how to move past these dating holding patterns and open your mind romance and dating. I recommend reading this book first before reading the books in Resource #1

Resource # 3: How to Be a Lady by Simpson-Gilles

Thsi book is a listing of do's and don's when it comes to being a lady. Many of the tips are common sayings your mother or grandmother would have told you at some point in your life but other things are a bit of a "oooh I didnt know that" moment. Bear in mind this book was written a whole generation back and as such should be read with this thought in mind however there are a lot of GREAT tips in here that are useful in every day life.

The great thing about these books is it gives you perspective on how the male mind works. Once you gain a certain understanding of the male mind you can translate some of it into the working world. Now I am not advocating using these books to start an office affair. Not at all!! BUT, being self aware in terms of projecting lady like qualities in the office, decoding the things men say will certainly help you in your interactions in the office and the outside world.

Free tip of the day:

Your best accessory in the morning is not a brand named article of clothing or jewlery, its your smile. Dont underestimate the power of a smile. Think positive thoughts and watch that positivity transmitt through your facial expression and your smile. People will gravitate to you.

Hello and Welcome

Hello everyone and welcome to my blog.

I have a lot of ideas and I am excited to share some of my tips and secrets to being the best Feminine version of yourself.

This blog will feature the following:

* Fashion tips for creating a wardrobe that highlights your best features

* Mental wellness tips on how to cultivate beauty from the inside out

*Tips on how to portray lady-like qualities in realtionships, the office and in your everyday life

*Wealth Management (coming later on in the series)

*features such as tips and tricks on healthy lifestyle living


*How to be smarter in Relationships with men and the mistakes we often make in order to be "nice".

So please sit back and enjoy :)