What Lies Inside...?

Hey Dolls!! Hopefuly you have enjoyed my few short posts on dresses, shapewear and the books I've shared on how to be your best self in a relationship (I will revisit this topic more in depth later). I've gone over what lies beneath and how to start with a good wardrobe fundation so you can look and feel your best in any dress or skirt. So now that we have an idea about that lets adress hat lies inside...that is inside your head!

You ever hear the saying that its all in our head? Well, its true!! You have the power to do, be and think whatever you like and watch as your desires come to life!

It goes without sayng that you are what you think. If you think negative things such as, "I'm a failure, I'm ugly, fat, undesireable, unattractice etc" then thats unfortunatley what you will be. You and only you are responsible for your thoughts, what you accept as true and what you believe you deserve! So you ask yourself, well how do I do that?? I dont like my hair, I dont like my skin, I dont like my body, etc, etc, etc. Or all my life I have been told I will be nothing, I am ugly, so and so is prettier then me, or society says my body shape, size, skin tone or hair colour is not beautiful. Again whatever you accept to be true is what you will have and be.

Scenario:

Cassandra was a tall, slender and pretty dark skinned girl. She was smart, level headed and a bit shy and reserved. Ling was short, pretty asian girl who was smart, charasmatic and funny. Though she wasnt exactly slim, she owned her body and wasnt afraid of what she looked like. Talia was a pretty, petite, biracial girl who was smart, charasmatic, fun, outgoing and very confident.
Talia was the leader of the trio. She constantly was the centre of male attention with her bleach blonde hair, blue contacts, push up bra ad heavy make up. But deep down inside she wasnt very secure with herself and constantly talked about how great she was and how well she did in school.
Eventually it began to have an affect on Ling and Cassandra and they began to feel inadequate, and almost invisible when Talia was around. So ling, began wearing tighter fitting clothes, got blonde streaks in her hair and started partying heavily with Talia. Cassandra being the shy reserved one didnt quite feel like she fit in because of her height.
She felt embarassed to wear the 4 inch heels that the other girls wore because it made her feel ackward and like she towered over everyone. And though she tried wearing the heavy make up like the other girls she wasnt quite able to pull it off. She felt down on herself all the time and by the end of the semester became very depressed.

What kind of thoughts do you think were going through Cassandras head?

"I hate being so tall. If I wasnt I could wear those cute high heels like Talia and Ling without towering over everyone"

"I wish my hair was longer or lighter but I dont have the money to get streaks" "I wish I was as smart as Talia! Watch her get a higher score then me on the next test."

All of these negative thoughts made Cassandra feel inadequate and bad about herself and helped propel her deeper into depression.

Does this scenario sound familiar to you?? Do you constantly compare yourself to a friend, sibling, acquaintance or peer and list all the reasons why they are better then you in some way, all while wishing you could have those things for yourself too?

If thats you then I have a powerful tool to help you overcome those thoughts, regain control of your mind and become the person you have always wanted to be.



The Power of the Subconcious Mind

The Power of the Subconcious Mind by Joseph Murphy

I was recommended this book by an aunt and aquaintance. It focuses on how you can think yourself successful, powerful, healthy, rich and even slender. It sounds like it could be a lot of fluff but it is not. First it talks about the common mind traps of negativity that can pervade our minds and keep us trapped in a cycle of negativity, lack and want and how we unwitingly incorporate this into our belief system. Finallyt it introduces us to our subconcious mind, its role in our life and how we already have the tools to transform ourselves into what we want to be.

I dont want to give away too much because this book is a ASSET in your aresenal of femininity and it teaches you how to get a rein on negative thoughts, banish them and focus on positivity.

Case in point

Yea right you say! What does this have to do with feminity?? Wel I'll share a few reasons why

* You will smile more smile is a warm invitation for others to smile back. And believe me Dolls, a smile can net you more then just a, 'How you doin!"

*When you smile, your face muscles relax, you give off a essense of warmth, positivity and contentment and contentment draws people to you. It draws your co workers to view you as a sset to their work environment. Your boss will notice and will begin to view you in a positive light and when your boss views you that way, doors begin to open.

*A woman who is soft and feminine attracts male suitors. Suddenly, men want to be around her a lot more because her contentment attracts them.

*Now this sounds a bit...manipulative but I assure you its not intentional. Contentment in a woman results in her uncontrllable ability to exude femininity will help said woman to influence others. Its not fair, it sucks for those who dont benefit but its a reality. No use in moaning and groaning about it. Might as well get on the side of being benefited then watching it benefit someone else and feeling sour about it.

Like it or not Dolls, it does benefit the holder of such Femininity. So Dolls, go get the book and read it.

I wont give too much details behind this life changing book because I think the author does and amazing job of proving how and why this works. Besides, its not something you want to read once and set aside. Its a tool and an excellent reference once your mind has been awakened that you will want to reference again and again.

If you want to benefit from the wisdom then you have to put in the work. Its as simple as that. Your not going to get that awesome scarf at French Connection if you dont at least get in the car and drive to the mall to go get it. Same applies here.

You must put in the effort to change your situation or you will simply stay put in the situation you are in.

To harness the Power of Femininity is to take a step and walk boldly towards your goals and dreams. Till next time Dolls!

What Lies Beneath??

What lies beneath?
Hello Dolls!!!! Sorry I have been away- its been really busy. Anyhow, as my last post suggested dresses can REALLY up your feminine presence. I adore dresses and what they can do for you.
Dont underestimate the power of a flattering dress, and pretty shoes can do for you and the image they can portray. Personally, I feel much more feminine in a dress and heels then pants. It automatically makes me walk straighter, not walk with such a rush to get to where ever I am going and most importantly it helps me to sit like a lady!!

Tip #1

The lady-like way to get in and out of a car
So, picture this! Your walking to the car and getting ready to make that long (or short) trip to work. Your in a pretty dress or skirt and your nicest most comfortable (lets not forget comfort Dolls-hello!) shoes - You know you look your best. You get to the car, unlock the doors then hope in like a trucker at a pit stop... *screeching halt Stop the movie*
STOP RIGHT THERE!
Nothing says un-sexy like a pretty woman, wearing a pretty dress (or skirt) and pretty shoes swinging her right leg in then left like a trucker at the 7-11 truck stop off the highway 400 North. Dont be that girl!!!
The correct way to get into a car is first resting (notice the word RESTING) your bottom onto the seat, then with one sweeping motion, swing both legs into the car, then reach over with your left hand and close the car door. Easier said then done??? Well, true you have to engage your ab muscles a bit to do it but if you can master this you will have the men noticing and mesmerized at how feminine and dainty you are!!

Real life experience;
Because I never want to give advice without taking it I will share with you my real life experience with this. I tried this for myself one day in the parking lot at work on lunch. There was a group of men huddled around their vehicle having a discussion. I walked over to my car and swung my legs in just as I described above. Right before I pulled the car door shut I looked up and I was shocked to see all 3 men staring and smiling with a pleasent surprised look.
Wondering if it was them, later on that day at the gas station I did it again, and again I looked up and I was met with a smile from one of the men pumping gas. So dolls, it works! Plus it helps you feel super feminine as well. Now onto the title of this post. What lies beneath??
So back to those dresses and skirts. I'm sure many of you dolls looked at some of these dresses and thought, "wow that one is nice but I dont think my figure will look right in it." Or you thought, "my tummy is too big, my butt too large and my thighs too big etc". Well, I say hogwash to that Dolls! Its not so much what the eyes can see on the outside but its what they cant see undeneath that makes all the difference!

Do I have your attention now??

A great outfit starts with a great foundation. The right under garments can pull in, tuck under, and pull together any figure to look more flattering in any outfit or make you look HORRID!
And now there are so many excellent choices for all budgets, sizes and needs. The great part is practically everyone, and I do mean practically everyone is wearing them so you dont have to feel ashamed for wanting a little lift, tuck, pull or minimization in those areas that your not so thrilled about.

This one so far is my favorite.

http://www.vedettestore.com/

They have compression shape wear for every area that you would like to see instant improvement. From minimizing your thighs, to flattening in upper and lower abs, lifting your booty or tucking in any rolls you may feel you have they have it all!!! I purchased their strong compression garment that provides excellent ompression on your lower abs and I must say I love it. Their sizes start from XS to XL. My advice to you is, if your a medium according to their size chart, you might want to order a small. But take that for what it is. But beware, when I tell you it holds you in, it really holds in firmly and gives you that sexy hour glass shape you may be craving for.

If you have that shape but a tiny pooch (raises hand) then get it anyway and be prepared to add some mirror time to your morning prep because you will be drooling at how hot you look (again raises hand).

Another great site is http://www.ardyss.com/

I personally tried their Panty Reshaper lifting panty because my good friend had a "garment party" at her house and I fell in love. It lifts you like you wouldnt believe.
Got those jeans that you feel doesnt give your derrier the spotlight you'd like it to have? Get this panty! My goodness I cant sing the praises of this garmet enough! It has bands that go under your buttocks and lifts it up comfortably. If your hubby or boyfriend grabs your butt its all you, no padding at all!! The shorts are seamless and are not visible under most clothing such as jeans, and shorts. Its awesome!!
The site has information on how to find a distributor in your area. Ok Dolls, thats all for tonight. I will be back with more awesome information on how you can enhance yourself and harness the power of your femininity.

Next topic, the power of the mind because it all starts in your head Dolls! I have an awesome book that I've read twice that came recommended by two very smart women in my life. I am proud to share it with you ladies because I truely believe it will change your life!

Why? Because it's changed mine! Till next time Dolls!