Thursday, June 16, 2011

How Your Negative Thoughts may be Sabotaging your Femininity Part III


 

Good evening Dolls!!


 

To continue in my series on How Your Negative Thoughts may be Sabotaging your Femininity, let's move on to Scenario 2

"God there goes Emily again. Look at how Josh and Leon are practically leaning out of their chair gawking at her. Men! God, every time she comes over here they gawk, or run over to talk to her and get her whatever she wants. What's so special about her anyway? I mean, we're both tall, and slim. I wear makeup too so why are they so on her every time she walks over? I can't stand her; she's such an attention whore. That's why she comes over here so they can gawk at her. Insecure bitch. I bet she is sleeping with one of them or she hoes around. Yea she probably hoes it up big time. That's probably why they all fall all over her. Hmpf! I feel better now!" STOP Right there! Turn around and get back over here and continue reading."

Envy is the result of disappointment with yourself and un accomplished hopes and dreams. Over time this disappointment turns into bitterness that hovers down deep and shows up when someone comes along who has achieved what you have always wanted for yourself. Of course, this isn't always so plain of an explanation to one's self so instead you find yourself "disliking this person", "not feeling her vibe" and reasoning this person's actions as negative, conniving and even purposefully spiteful to you as a person. It could be that Emily legitimately has to come down to that floor for business or she has friends down there and so happens to pass by where Josh and Leon are. Emily can't be responsible for these men's reactions to her as much as the girl in the scenario can illicit either men to change and notice her in the same way. It is what it is. Sorry, but if Emily is bubbly, smiles a lot, is witty, and has a happy countenance about her and these men gawk at her I hardly think it will stop if she decides to not come down to that floor anymore. I'd imagine that if they are reacting that way, I'd bet a million that there are more men who smile, stare or "gawk" at her too somewhere else in the building. Remember, our thoughts whether it be thinking about something that makes us feel good or it's something negative that makes us feel badly about something, either or sends out a frequency and affects our moods, demeanor, and ultimately the "vibe" we send out. That "vibe" is read by the people around us. If we are envious, jealous and generally "bad minded" towards other women the vibe we transmit tells everyone else that we are a jealous, envious and negative person who is INSECURE!! Men are very turned off by insecurity and can smell it a mile away (along with desperation-something we may or may not ever talk about here).

Insecurity undermines your femininity by keeping you in a cycle of self consciousness, self doubt, and ultimately low self esteem. Femininity and low self esteem can't co-exist with each other and still achieve the same objective of cultivating a powerful feminine energy. Femininity is about being your most confident, brightest and wonderful you. Confidence allows you to walk in a room with your head high, shoulders back and freely smile and give off an air of pleasantness because you are happy and confident with WHO you are and what YOU have to offer. You think of yourself as fabulous, you love yourself enough to not care if you're in a room with 20 pretty girls because you know you are stepping out with your best foot forward and you are enough. You're thinking positively, you're smiling and your femininity is genuine because it's coming from a real place from within that doesn't need to compete with anyone because it shines on its own merit and existence.

This is precisely the difference between a beautiful, sexy, woman who looks great yet when another pretty girl walks in the room her face immediately bends into a sour expression, her demeanor shifts, and she looks visibly displeased with the entrance of this new woman. Her confidence and beauty is superficial and she is really an insecure woman who is intimidated of the potential for this new woman to snag the attention of the men she was previously enjoying. If she truly knew she was enough, then she would smile and continue her conversation, even paying the new woman a compliment in her conversation with whomever she was speaking with. Nothing says sexier to a man when his woman or a woman is confident in herself and the fact that she is enough. He won't say, "Oh I can tell you think your enough", he will instead say, "she's very confident about herself. Hmm, what makes her so confident and content when other woman would have scoffed and become catty? There must be something different about this one. I wonder what it is". Then he will seek to figure it out. Once he is intrigued about what makes you, our sexy, confident and feminine self so different then it's the beginning grabbing and holding onto his attention to you and not the new pretty young thang that just walked in the door. And if he doesn't hold his attention on you but rudely gawks, stares or makes inappropriate comments then he's not the type of man you'd want to associate with (disrespectful, and shovanistic) anyway.


 

Does this make sense dolls??


 

I keep coming back to the same thing your thoughts! You can't escape it because it's not just what you think inside it comes across and is read by others. There is nothing worse than a pretty girl dressed femininely who looks pissed off, has an angry disposition about her and pushes everyone away with her presence. It's like a beautiful rose covered in disgusting worms; it's gorgeous but such a waste because even though you want to go near it, you dare not approach and you definitely don't want it to come near you.


 

What are your thoughts??

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